1) Unravel Your Story
Let’s beginning at the beginning. Discovering ourselves is at the core of this process. A good way to do so would be to ask oneself, “Who am I?” If you were to ask someone this question, you’d often be greeted by responses such as, I am a Doctor or Engineer or Entrepreneur and so on. People tend to mistake their qualifications or professions with their identities. This has possibly been ingrained in most of us because of the emphasis we place on our source of livelihoods. Just how much do we really know ourselves?
Reflection is a great way to do this. For me, meditation works like magic! The insights I draw from a meditative session help settle the dust and bring clarity and I then benefit from profound insights. Mindfulness and journal writing also works for many. Mentors help highlight our true strengths and show us facets of ourselves which we haven’t been able to identify on our own. Which are the values you cherish the most in yourself? (or in the people you admire).
Another simple way is to examine what gives us joy and involves us deeply. What are you passionate about, what kind of work do you actually look forward to doing? This will be close to the ‘core you.’ Also, we are all unique. So what is it that makes me stand out from the crowd? By deliberating on these questions we could arrive at a fairly accurate assessment of ourselves, what are our core strengths, values and objectives.
2) Empower Your Story
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
― C.G. Jung
You will come across any number of people who live their lives as defined for them by their parents, circumstances or even by themselves, at odds with where they should ideally be headed. This is because a real effort to align purpose and career/objectives/vision has never been made. There is a disconnect between authentic selves and choices made. Vision boards can help in this respect, based on the key first step of this exercise.
While understanding ourselves is one aspect, conviction is an even more important factor. Fortunately, I happen to be quite decisive in this respect . The day I realised writing and communication it was for me, I switched careers right away. It set me free. Career hopping might not be everyone’s cup of tea, though.Self-alignment is not limited to one’s career as such. It has to reflect in one’s important choices, relationships, goals and vision.
3) Share Your Story
What story are you telling?
“Story? What story?”
We live in a linked, networked world where connecting with people across the world is getting easier. At the same time, every post, every image uploaded, like, comment and blog of ours tells a story. A story about us, lodged indelibly in thousands and thousands of followers who have access to our Social Media profiles. Therefore, there’s a story written about you and me in the readers’ minds and each day this grows, takes shape, indelibly..word by word, pixel by pixel.
Effectively, your Story defines your Personal Brand.
Our Online personas must resonate with our offline behaviour and vice versa.
Popularity on SM come at a cost~ responsibility. Let’s suppose I were to regularly share posts which make fun of women, even slighting them. How authentic or convincing would I sound if I said “I have the highest regard for the capabilities and potential of women” while honoring a lady at a function? (I actually have observed this kind of duplicity in a few people I know).
“What happens is of little significance compared with the stories we tell ourselves about what happens. Events matter little, only stories of events affect us.”
― Rabih Alameddine, The Hakawati
Highlight your key strengths in your communication as much as possible. This ‘story’ must be consistently narrated to your readers /audience. It helps build a positive brand image (aligned to the true you), endears you to your existing social circle (Online/Offline) and attracts the right sort of new friends/associates into the fold.
So are you telling your story with Authenticity?